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A Few Things I Know For Sure

With John Patrick Adams
Tuesday, May 02, 2017 11:50 AM

Don't Let The Door Hit You...

By: John Patrick Adams

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I think we all have that one friend who is miserable …  Constantly they gripe about the one they’re with; their job; their life; their church; their weight, and any other thing you can imagine…  They’re the friend in which you have to control the conversation because if you don’t, the entire time the two of you are together, the conversation is going to be about them and their toxic life…   I mean at times they’re emotionally draining because you’re pulled into their chaos…  He/she constantly says they’re going to leave/quit, yet they stay…  He/she constantly says they’re going to change, yet they remain the same…

So maybe you remember my bud I wrote about in “Pieces Of The "Perfect One"”…  Yeah the one with the wife and GIRLFRIEND….  YUP GIRLFRIEND…  The one who said “No one can be your everything, so why make them your only”, well we chatted today and he’s having problems with the GIRLFRIEND… Now because I’ve never been in simultaneous relationships, maybe this is why I’m unable to completely understand his position…  Now she’s just the girlfriend, not the one who’s going to get half of everything, child support and because he has an amazing job, spousal support...  She’s just the side chick, you know the piece you hit when wifey ain’t putting out…  But to him, she’s a piece to the puzzle to what he considers perfection, and as crazy as this puzzle may look to me, he finds peace in it… 

You see there are people who can’t exist in happiness, peace, and joy…  If their worlds aren’t turned upside down, they’re unable to function… Their egos are fed by being chased, constantly validated, and by the weakness of others…  Drama and misery are their roomates and when peace shows up on the doorstep, they lock the door without the consideration of letting it in…. Like I said in the beginning of this blog, we all have at least one friend who fits this description…  They constantly complain about everything, but secretly they’re at peace in it…  What I know for sure is…  It’s harder for you to pull someone up than it is for them to pull you down…  I’m not saying you shouldn’t be friends with these people, but at some point YOU HAVE TO SET BOUNDARIES FOR THEIR PLACE IN YOUR LIFE…  You have to limit them by not allowing them to bring toxic into your life…  You have to limit the destructive behavior you tolerate…  You have to monitor the conversations you have with him/her…  Being a good friend doesn’t mean you have to be a trash can, being a good friend is telling them the truth and if they can’t handle it, tell them “Don’t let the door hit you on your way”… 

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