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A Few Things I Know For Sure

With John Patrick Adams
Wednesday, July 26, 2017 9:08 AM

Why Your Spouse Is Jealous Of Your Friends!!!!

By: John Patrick Adams


So what grants permission for friendships when you’re married?  Is it the “Marital Status” of the outsider? The “Security” within the marriage?  Is it whether or not the person is a "true" family member?  The “Gender” of the outsider???  What does it take for “spouses” to have friends and everything is okay?  I believe we’ve all heard “Singles shouldn’t be friends with people who are married” or how about “Men and women can’t just be friends without some type of benefits”??? To be honest, I believe both of these are a bunch of ish used to mask the insecurities of the mate who feels as though they’re the outsider…  You see it doesn’t matter what the relationship status or the gender of the outsider is, the spouse looking from the outside is either insecure within themselves or insecure with their spouse because of his/her past actions…  Let me put this out, there are some friends who are trifflin, i get this...  BUT IF YOUR MATE CHOOSES TO CONTINUE THEIR FRIENDSHIP, YOUR PROBLEM IS WITH YOUR MATE AND NOT THE LOW DOWN, DIRTY, TRIFFLIN FRIEND....

So why is your spouse jealous of your friends???  Well it’s because he/she wants what the two of you have…  If those who are insecure with their mates having friends were completely honest with themselves, they would come to this exact truth…  You see your friends gets the best of you…  They have the opportunities of experiencing the “you” who smiles, laughs, and tell jokes…  They get the “You” who is excited for the next time you’re together…  The “you” who is adventurous, spontaneous, and willing to try new things…  For some of your friends, they get the “you” who calls throughout the day just to see how your day is going, and not all of these friends are married or of the opposite sex…  You see your friend’s gets the “best you”, but your mate gets “All Of You”…

Your friends don’t have to deal with the overspending, not putting the toilet seat down; not cleaning up behind yourself…  Your friends don’t have to deal with the issues, lack of sex, lack of commitment, nor do they have to deal with the lack of excitement about the relationship…  Again, your friends gets the “best you”, while your mate is left with “All of You”…. Now to those of you “Spouses” who are jealous…  The reason your “spouses” friends gets the “best” of who they are is because they don’t argue with them… They’re not nagged, controlled, or manipulated by their friends…  The person information or anything shared with their friends isn’t analyzed, broken down, and used against them…  Their friends don’t have to live with them which creates more of an unrealistic perception of who your spouse truly is… 

What I know for sure is…  Their friends aren’t the problem in your marriage…  It’s either YOU or your SPOUSE…  Friends can’t make your spouse do anything they're unwilling to do…  Friends aren’t the reason you feel the way you do, your spouse is…  It doesn’t matter if they're married or not, nor does it matter if their male or female…  You have a problem within your relationship, because you believe you’re not getting what you want in your relationship…  If everyone and everything is problem, MAYBE YOU NEED TO CHECK YOURSELF OR CHECK YOUR MATE BEFORE YOU GO BLAMING SOMEONE WHO ISN’T IN YOUR MARRIAGE…

How Much Are You Willing To Pay For Love????



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