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A Few Things I Know For Sure

With John Patrick Adams
Friday, July 26, 2019 7:53 AM

The "Meantime" Chic

By: John Patrick Adams


Men are often accused of not knowing exactly what it is they want… Some women have accused us of playing games; stringing women along, and some have even called us dogs. We’ve been told we need to make up our minds; choose one woman to love, and we’ve also been told we aren’t able to commit to just one. If we were weak-minded individuals, some of us would be left feeling worthless, bipolar, and inconsiderate of others feelings…

So Ladies, I must agree with you… There are some men who are clueless to what it is that makes their heart smile and because of this, many men are hurting women… Leaving some with emotional scars, bruises and wounds… Some men have broken not only the hearts of a woman, but her spirit. These women were left feeling worthless; undesirable and confused as to what she brings to the table. Some of these men were hurt, so they hurt you and other women. Some of these men just wanted to play the field, but instead of speaking this truth, many of them stringed you along only to cut the cord once he got what he wanted and for this, I apologize… I apologize because you deserved better than what you received… I apologize because you were undeserving of this treatment. Of course my apology may mean nothing to you because I’m not the one who caused the hurt, but as a man I do realize some of you have been broken by the male species…

Just as there are clueless men, there are men who are certain of what he wants… He knows exactly the qualities whether they are physical or mental, he desires in a partner… He even knows through trial and error the things in which he doesn’t want… Finding this woman sometimes can be a struggle for him, so instead of being single, he decides to casually and sometimes exclusively date women who don’t quite measure up… Does this mean there are things wrong with this woman? Absolutely not… Does this mean these women aren't smart; beautiful; driven enough? Absolutely not… It only means until he finds the woman of his dreams, he’s willing to date the women in his reality… I like to call these women “The Meantime Chic”… You see this woman is the one he will date in the meantime while he is looking for the woman of his dreams… Because he is sure of what he wants, he will date the meantime chic, but never love her… This isn’t fair, but it is truth…

So where am I going with this you’re wondering? Well, ladies you may not realize the power you have… You have the power to walk at any given time if you believe the man you’re with is unwilling to commit to you… You have to the power to choose what you’re willing to accept… You have the power NOT to love a man more than he is willing to love you… You have the power NOT to settle for just a relationship… You have the power to not only speak your truth, but live it… You are a powerful force, don’t ever underestimate yourself.

What I know for sure is… There are men who know exactly what it is he wants, but sadly for some women, she’s not it. This doesn’t make him a bad man nor does it make her a bad woman. To be quite honest, this guy should be commended for not trying to change a woman into the person he has created in his mind, he allows her to be who she truly is and enjoys every minute of being around her. But ladies, you don’t have to stay with a man just to have a man… If he’s not giving you what you want, you have the power to leave him and go get exactly what you want. YOU ARE A POWERFUL BEING…

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