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A Few Things I Know For Sure

With John Patrick Adams
Wednesday, July 10, 2019 9:43 AM

One Size Too Big

By: John Patrick Adams


So the comments are already coming in and unfortunately for me, I’m on the chopping board… So on the latest “Brown Liquor & Cigar” Podcast, I asked the question “Would you date a Plus Size Woman?”… Both Kendrick and Carlos said yes, I on the other hand was a DEFINITE NO… Nothing against PSW, just not what I’m into… On the Podcast I stated the largest I would go is a Size 8… Now take into consideration, I’m not a big guy, so I want someone who I believe compliments me physically…

Because of my choice, some women believe I’m immature and closed mind… They feel I should consider a PSW and not be so shallow… So let me break it down for you… The reason those giving feedback are so critical is because they’re one or more sizes too big for my preference. Now in no way am I suggesting these women are attracted to or trying to holla at me, but they feel alienated, disqualified, and discriminated against. Because of my preference, these women believe they’re not given a chance to prove just how amazing of a woman they are. From what I know, all these women are African American Women… If I would have stated I wouldn’t date outside my race, this wouldn’t be a problem… If I would have stated I’m not interested in skinny or petite women, this wouldn’t be a problem…. If I would have said I wasn’t interested in a woman with weave in her head, it would be a problem for 9 out of 10 of them (lol)… With the exception of the weave, none of these things impact them, therefore they have no need to feel offended or discriminated against…

What I’ve learned over the years is, you won’t be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s perfectly fine… Just because a person has acquired a different taste, doesn’t mean there is something wrong with the tea you’re brewing… Maybe I am missing out on someone amazing, or maybe I’m not, I’LL NEVER KNOW…. But what I do know for sure is… One man’s preference doesn’t devalue who you are as a woman… You’re still brilliant and full of beauty… You are still strong, desirable and your curves are sexy af… You’re still confident, educated, creative and extremely talented… Your waist size has nothing to do with your insides… Just because one man has decided not to make you his queen, doesn’t mean there aren’t others who will… Find the man who will desire and appreciate your thickness, curves and “buns”… There’s plenty out there, just not me…

Check out the Brown Liquor & Cigars Podcast, "The Woman I Want" below...


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