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A Few Things I Know For Sure

With John Patrick Adams
Friday, August 18, 2017 9:15 AM

JUST SAY IT!!!

By: John Patrick Adams

One thing I hate is being underestimated…  Who gives others the right to decide what I can handle, process, or deal with???  I believe in some cases people limit us based on what they themselves can handle, process or deal with, therefore they either lie, cheat, stay in situations in which they are unhappy, or walk around on egg shells…  Today I want to talk to those of you who are currently stealing the “freedom of choice” from someone you know…

 

So here we go…

 

  • If you want to entertain, date or sleep with someone else, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  The one you’re with just may be strong enough to take it and who knows, he/she may just be open to  keeping an “Open Relationship” with you…  Don’t stay with someone if you’re completely unhappy with the thought of just being with him/her…  This only cause’s drama later when you choose to cheat, lie or when you become so miserable within the relationship, you decide to do things that disrespect it…

 

  • If you’re unhappy, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  Not speaking your feelings steals the opportunities for the other person to correct what is wrong…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes theirs…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes resentment…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes anger…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes pain and hurt not only for you, but the one you’re with…  Your unhappiness eventually becomes the very thing that kills any future possibilities of the one you're with...

 

  • If you don’t’ want to be married, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  Being married when you don’t want to be married is like locking yourself in a prison cell and throwing away the key…  Not speaking your truth is one of the greatest disservices you can ever give the one you’re with…  Marriage isn’t for everyone and sadly to say, some people have to experience the whole “Big Wedding Day” to realize he/she should be SINGLE….  Never lock anyone else in a prison you’ve built yourself, unlock and remove the bars and set both of you free….

 

  • If you’re not attracted to him/her, JUST SAY IT….  What I know for sure is…  When you lead people on because of your fear of hurting them, YOU ONLY HURT THEM…  Not speaking the truth only makes you MORE UNATTRACTIVE…  Most times people have already experienced not being someone’s type, so don’t overrate yourself….  Tell him/her the truth and allow them to be with the one who sees the beauty you don’t…

 

  • If you’re not sexually satisfied, JUST SAY IT…  What I Know for sure is…  Holding out on sex with your partner IS SOOOOOO UNFAIR…  The truth is, the reason many of you aren’t sexually satisfied isn’t because your mate isn’t laying pipe right or isn't guiding your ship properly, but because YOU’VE BEEN WITH SOMEONE ELSE…  You see if you’ve never been with someone, you have nothing to compare your current mate to.  So if he isn’t give you what you need or if he's giving your more than you need, JUST SAY IT…  Tell him what “Toe Curling” tips he needs to know…  If she’s not rowing your boat properly, JUST SAY IT…  Tell her how you liked to be sailed and give her a few pointers on how to get you to your destination a little bit faster…

 

  • If your feelings are hurt; you’re struggling with trust; you’re still dealing with what he or she may have done, JUST SAY IT…  What I know for sure is…  Punishing someone for something they’ve done in the past which is now out of their control IS UNFAIR…  If you want to continue the relationship, work through the hurt and pain, BE HONEST AND LET HIM/HER KNOW YOU NEED TIME TO HEAL…  Daily reliving and rehashing what was done isn’t fair to you, nor is it fair to the one you’re with…  Speak your truth and give him/her the opportunity to walk through their mishap with you…

 

What I know for sure is…  You should give others the "Freedom" to choose what he/she feels is best for them...  If you’re holding back on speaking your truth, you’re not only hurting others, BUT YOURSELF AS WELL


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