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A Few Things I Know For Sure

With John Patrick Adams
Thursday, May 25, 2017 3:17 PM

When They Say "We Ain't Together"

By: John Patrick Adams

I’m beginning to think I’m not “dating material”…. It’s like right now whomever I choose to date has to understand I’m passionate about my grind, I love and give my family and friends a great deal of attention, I’m a Cancer which sometimes causes me to be moody which results in me not always feeling like FaceTime, Texting or chatting on the phone and most importantly, I HAD A LIFE BEFORE THEIR APPEARANCE INTO MY WORLD must be taken into consideration… Trust me when I say, I get in the beginning of meeting someone you have to devote time and energy into building a relationship, I get this… However, I believe many times both women and men mentally move into a relationship that’s only a situationship… Yep, “situationship”… The current “situation” is two people getting to know each other, not embarking upon marriage or a relationship….

Many times expectations are placed on a casual situation… Sure maybe he shares how he enjoys spending time with you; how he’s never met someone like you before, or how about how he hopes the two of you can build something together… But none of these things mean the two of you are together… Sure maybe she gives you a kiss after the first date; invites you over for dinner with no DESSERT, or how about she sends you a nice text each and every morning… But none of these things mean the two of you are together… It’s amazing how things can be misinterpreted in dating… How one person takes everything as an indication as the other wanting to move forward into a relationship… So today let me help you not hurt you… Just because a person is nice to you doesn’t mean the two of you are together or even going to be together…

Many of you are walking around mad at a guy/girl because you feel as though you were led on…  You believe he/she was giving all this attention; wining and dining you and for some of you, having sex with you but knew they weren’t going to be with you…  Well just because someone likes or lays you, doesn’t mean he/she wants to date or marry you, NOR jump quickly into a relationship with you…  THEY'RE DATING YOU (Get yo copy today of "How to Win the Dating Game.. Eeesh)...  Some of you haven’t been in a relationship for a while and honestly, this is working against you…  Because you so desperately want a relationship, everything the other person does gives you hope the two of you are going to be together, THIS IS NOT THE CASE…  But the sad part about all of this is you’re disappointed or hurt when eventually he/she pulls away or break their silence and say “We Ain’t Together”…

So where am I going with this???  Well first, before assuming you’re in a relationship, HAVE THE CONVERSATION and ask if the two of you are moving there…  Secondly, stop moving so quickly with expectations and requirements of the other person… Third, SEX IS PENETRATION NOT A PROMISE…  And lastly, remember people have lives before meeting you and just because you believe you’re top priority, doesn’t mean they do…  What I know for sure is…  If you fail to follow these four truths, you’re bound to have your feelings hurt after giving pieces of your heart when you hear, “We Ain’t Together”…

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