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Monday, May 16, 2016 12:15 PM

Love At First...Does It Exist ?

By: Nikki Jackson

I once met a guy that told me he loved me 3wks after we met (yes I said 3wks). He said, "I fell in love with you the moment I saw you." Awwww ❤️❤️. LIES! He may have fell in deep LIKE, but there was no way that man loved me. Now it's very possible that love at first sight can and has happened. I don't knock it because when it comes to love, anything is possible. And I've laid my eyes on a few that had my thoughts warped like a fun house mirror, but to say I've seen someone and instantly wanted to love him...nah, can't say that I have. I won't lie though, the 3wk lover man was very intense and even had me thinking I loved him too. Until, lo and behold, he showed his true colors and I took off those rose colored glasses. Damn things can blind you! And I didn't like what I saw. So that was that.
I've heard of several stories where a couple gets engaged and married within 6 months of dating. I work with a young lady that's been with her guy less than 2 months and just got engaged. Is this a form of love at first sight, or more of "when you know, you know"? I honestly question how someone can be ready to commit to a person that they barely know. I mean come on, 2 months, or even 6 months in, you don't know this person that well. True you know a majority of the good, but what about when you see the bad? Hell you really don't know everything about someone after 5yrs, truth be told. But I get it. When the love bug bites, not too much you can do about it. And not knowing a person fully doesn't mean that it won't work. Back in the day, most of our grandparents and great grandparents met, dated, and married in less than 3 months, at an early age, produced 5-10 kids and stayed married until death did them part. Simpler times back then, but love was probably no easier then than it is now.
I still question the "love at first sight" thing and probably always will. But hey, what do I know. Love hadn't worked for me lately so maybe I should try something different and love him the minute I find him. *side thought*...just gotta find him first 😏
~Nikki J~

*I speak from failure and experience*

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