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With Nikki Jackson
Monday, February 20, 2017 5:46 PM

10 Rules To Follow When Participating In A Threesome

By: Nikki Jackson

A threesome! That magical word guys love to hear. The thrill of him having sex with two beautiful women is so enticing how can he say no. However, there's a catch. He may be up for being with two women, but not so much with being with another guy and a woman. Selfish, I know. Most men don't want to watch their woman get off with another man because let's face it, that other man might be better at doing what he does. If it's a random chic, he could care less. But it works both ways though. A woman may not want to watch her man going down on another woman, but probably won't care if it's just three people "hooking up".
Usually when a threesome comes up, it's from the man wanting to fulfill that fantasy. It can spice up a dull sex life, or just add a little extra excitement to the already fantastic sex life they have. But bringing a new person into the bedroom can be as risky as it is risqué; if someone feels excluded or pushed too far outside of their comfort zone, the relationship could burn right before their eyes. This is why you have to have boundaries before you get the party started. Who can do what, who can't do what, and how far should you go. Rules should be discussed and agreed upon by all parties. Otherwise things are bound to go sour and get out of control.
Now I've never had a threesome (too territorial to share), so I had to ask a few people that have what they felt were the best rules to follow. Here's what they suggest...

1. Never ignore the main partner. Giving too much attention to the "extra" may cause them to feel as if you're getting more out of it than they are, creating jealousy and hurt.
2. He is only allowed to penetrate his partner. If it happens to be a woman and two men, she is not allowed to let the "extra" penetrate her.
3. No kissing of the "extra" unless you have both agreed it's ok. For couples kissing is a form of intimacy, something they may not want to share with an outsider.
4. Protection is a must. You never want to bring home anything other than a good time.
5. Everyone has an orgasm, and everyone helps with that orgasm. The easiest way to not feel left out is to participate the whole way through it.
6. Make sure everyone is on the same page. The rules have been discussed and agreed upon by all parties.
7. No alone time with the outsider. Things can get pretty complicated if one or the other has a better time with the "extra" and want it more and more without their partner. Always keep it a threesome and not a twosome.
8. Everyone stays in the same bedroom. No one goes off to play separately.
9. Do not use a friend as the "third wheel". Understandably you're comfortable with a friend, but is it worth ruining a friendship over when things get sour?
10. Last but not least, always stay honest with each other. Create a safe word, so when and if one or the other becomes uncomfortable with something, the other knows when to stop.

A threesome isn't for everyone, and everyone doesn't know how to handle it when they do have one. You may not follow all of the rules listed, but make sure you have your own rules ready. Fellas you don't want to lose your chic to the woman that gave her a better orgasm than you EVER have, and ladies you don't want to lose your man to the woman that's a superhead in training....now do you?
~Nikki J~

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