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Tuesday, September 13, 2016 10:46 AM

11 Things Single Women Are Tired Of Hearing From Their Married (or almost married) Friends

By: Nikki Jackson

I saw this article online and thought it was pretty interesting. And I must say, I would have to agree with everything said. So much so that I wanted to share; but of course, it's been tweeked a little with the "Nikki J" twist 😊

Your friends are the people you choose to share your life with: job crises, family stuff, bad dates, breakups, and life milestones. Part of being a good friend is that you'll go through that stuff together. But sometimes our paths don't stay the same, and friends get married before you. Of course you still want to share, but it's like all of a sudden, your friend - who JUST deleted her Snapchat app - can't relate. Here's a list we single people are tired of hearing from their friends....

"Sorry it's a couples thing".
Really? Ok we get that suddenly everything you do is for "couples only", but rejecting me from the invite because I don't have a plus one, kinda sucks.

"Have you tried Bumble/Tinder/OK Cupid?"
Telling a single woman to try online dating is like saying hey, have you tried sweet tea? Of course we've tried it. And you have to try something to know you don't like it...right ?

"Have you tried older/shorter/taller/skinnier/not so skinny men?"
No, I didn't know they existed. I'll make sure to alert the presses of this monumental knowledge. Really??

"Once you stop looking, you'll find him."
Girl bye!

"Maybe your standards are too high."
I'm assuming YOU didn't settle when it came to picking YOUR partner, so why should I change what I'm looking for in a guy?

"I'm just going to live vicariously through your dating shenanigans."
Why? You have a built in "date night" with your partner, why are you concerned with my dating life? Oh right, so you can judge me about things I'm doing that WE used to do together. Bye Felicia !

"Ugh, I just couldn't put myself out there again."
Like being single is a terminal illness. How lucky for you that you found the cure.

"I miss being single. It was so much fun."
Was it? Was it really??

"I know somebody at work to set you up with. He's kinda short and not really the type you go for, but he's really funny."
So, basically the only thing we have in common is that we're both single? Pass.

"Aren't you lonely? Don't you want to have a partner?"
No, actually I'd prefer to die a lonely old lady sitting in my rocking chair with cats at my feet wrapped in a snuggie.

"You have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else."
Let's get one thing clear; I am smart, funny, attractive, and really happy with myself. I'm not looking for someone to fill a void. I'm just looking for someone to share all the good and bad in my life, and be happy with.

Isn't it funny how someone that gets into a relationship, finds the love of their life, and gets married, suddenly has so much wisdom and knowledge on what their friends should do in order to not be single? How many of you encounter this problem with your friends? I know I have in the past and my comeback is always, "so if and when this doesn't work out, don't hit me up to start bar/club hopping since I'm such a lost soul."
Let single people BE. We know what's missing and when we find it, we'll find it. Until then, take care of your hubby, and let us take care of us.
~Nikki J~
*I speak from failure and experience*

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