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When Life Gives You Lemons...

By: Nikki Jackson

You lost your job. Your relationship/marriage ended. You were hit with unforeseen expenses that now have you financially strapped. Sound familiar? We've all been there. But when life gives you lemons, do you make lemonade, or sit back and ponder on how sour the lemons are? I understand how easy it is to get lost in the situations life deals us, but if you allow it to put you in a box, you may never be able to get out.
How do we stay positive when there's so many negative things against us? Depending on what those things are, it won't always be easy. But I always live by this rule of thumb; this isn't tv and when we die, there is no coming back. We get this one life to live, so it can either be as miserable as you make it, or as happy as you make it. Sometimes that cloud can be so black you can't see that the sun is actually shining on the other side. Live for that sunlight. It's the energy we all need to get through sour lemons.
Years and years ago, I had a black cloud so thick over me I thought it would never go away. That cloud turned out to be the relationship I was in. Happy one minute, miserable the next. A never ending cycle of break ups, make ups, craziness, and insanity. He (at the time) was my reason to smile, but also my reason for so many tears and sleepless nights. I overcame it because I knew that wasn't me, my personality or how I wanted my life to be. It took some time, lord knows it took some time. But I focused more on what was positive in my life, and that's how I got through it. No one is above sadness, depression, and bleakness. Happiness comes from within. Not from money, someONE, or material things. You can have all of that and more and still be unfulfilled. I tell friends that I know dealing with certain situations the same advice I had to give myself. When I say "I speak from failure and experience", it's not just words coming out of my mouth. It's truth, realness at its best. We can either live this life miserably, and at the end of the day regret not ever LIVING or being fulfilled, or we can LIVE. Be active. Be sociable. Love. Travel. When one love ends, love again. And again and again and again. Laugh. Enjoy. Be a friend to have friends. Add sugar to those lemons and make the best lemonade you've ever had!
~Nikki J~

*I speak from failure and experience*

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